Any true Love you've ever experienced is a knowing of 'God', not just romantic love, anything, or situation, or person that you've accepted unconditionally, seeing their imperfections but not focusing on those. Expand on that to loving all things and everyone, whether you 'like' them or not. The journey to that transcended way of being requires radical forgiveness; what? you thought this was easy?
Start by forgiving yourself, not excusing yourself; not transferring responsibility to another person or circumstance, but really forgiving yourself. Chalk up your transgressions against yourself and others to simply not knowing any better. Now work outward; forgiving your family and friends and then the world. The forgiveness journey can be cathartic, emotionally draining (a good thing), and personally irritating as hell, but it's also liberating in a way you've never experienced before.
Don't think this journey is something you can get done on a weekend. This journey will literally take years according to what you've done to yourself and others, but don't worry, it's a Love journey and Love will be with you every step of the way. Now you're really knowing Love...Love is much more than surface affections, butterflies and rainbows. Love is sometimes a day by day sledge hammer rock busting to reveal your true self buried in the stone. We are self created human beings...but some of us have let regrets, grudges and injuries do the sculpting, actually we all have. Do not even think of trying to forgive another person if you haven't begun your self forgiveness journey...Scan your memory...that recollection of yourself that makes you cringe? That's a good place to start. Don't worry about how to do this...when the student is ready the teacher will appear, a teacher who has always been there waiting for you to show up. Most times the teacher is found in the silence of your being, check there first.
Note how your life experience changes, you'll see things you've never seen before because you're looking with integrity from your heart, not just your mind.
I wrote this to myself